7 powerful ways to practise self-love
“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
– Louise L. Hay
What comes to your mind when you hear the word ‘self-love’? Expensive pampering sessions? Countless shopping trips? There is a lot of hype online about self-love but I often feel that this concept is misunderstood.
Self-love isn’t about spending lots of money on new clothes or going to a spa every weekend. While these activities can certainly make you feel good for a short period of time, you need to start by strengthening the relationship with yourself.
It’s worth remembering that self-love is the foundation for everything you do whether you are launching a new business, running a multimillion-dollar empire or taking a plunge into online dating. When you love yourself, things become a lot easier. You stop beating yourself up for every little mistake; you accept your weaknesses and flaws; and you start prioritising your own health and wellbeing.
As self-love starts and ends with you, here are 7 powerful ways to practise self-love every day.
Put yourself first
I know you are busy. You are a partner, mother, daughter, sister, business owner or a full-time employee. But putting your needs first is not selfish. You can’t serve your clients or take care of your family if you neglect your health and wellbeing.
You should remember that those who are close to you want to see you happy. They can also absorb your energy. Make sure you take time for yourself so you can show up in all facets of your life as the best version of yourself. Self-love starts with you.
We’re our own worst critic. We often hold onto past mistakes and wonder what if. Remember that you’re only human and no one is perfect. Treat the mistakes as valuable lessons.
Think about how you want to live your life. When you wake up in the morning, ask yourself how you want to feel.
Be mindful of your inner dialogue
Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself and what thoughts you’re having throughout the day. Be mindful about the words you choose. Talk to yourself like you’re your own best friend. Practise affirmations. Some of my favourite are:
I am strong.
I am beautiful.
I am enough.
I am fearless.
It’s not always easy to say no to people, activities or work. But boundaries are important if you want to have a healthy relationship with yourself and others. Define your non-negotiables: Do you want to finish work at 5pm? Do you only want to work with 3 clients at a time?
The more you practise self-love, the easier it will be for you to say no to invites or people that no longer align with what you desire.
Create a self-care routine
Block out your calendar and do something you love. Unplug from social media, read a book or lit a candle. You don’t need to spend money to give yourself a gift of love.
Connect with yourself
Take a few minutes in the morning or evening to sit in silence and be present in your own body. Focus on your breath and let yourself feel the feelings.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”
When was the last you practised self-love? Download my 31-Day Self-Love Calendar, which contains prompts you can use every day to give something back to yourself.